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The public's outlook on socially and culturally sensitive issues such as interracial dating is changing with time. After the legalization of interracial marriages in 1967 to the current legalization of gay marriages, it is evident that, given time, society learns to accept change. Interracial dating and romance is more popular and is becoming well established throughout North American society. Interracial daters are generally contented with the knowledge that they can both maintain their own culture as well as learn another.
Learning a new culture doesn't make interracial couples feel like they are betraying their roots. In fact, more often than not, parents are the one who stress their children into not abandoning their culture by not dating interracially. However, when it comes to other people outside the relationship, most individuals are willing to accept interracial dating or multicultural dating. However, when it endangers their own customs and beliefs, those same individuals are against it.
Many parents are concerned that interracial dating will somehow dilute their own culture and will threaten the preservation of their cultural beliefs. And to them, the only way to control the weakening of their cultural bonds is to restrict the actions of their children i.e. prevent them from dating interracially or outside of their culture. They feel that falling in love with someone of a different culture might make their children sacrifice their own traditions in order to make the relationship work.
Technically, it's not the place of the parents to make such decisions. Realistically, the parents have the power to decide as many children fear disapproval or even worse, isolation.
The best way for interracial couples to deal with their differences in culture is to compromise. It sometimes is the best way to bridge the gap between the varying ethnicities. Choosing the most important traditions from each culture, and including parents' opinions, will allow the partners and their parents to feel equally significant in the interracial relationship and the blending of cultures. Much as the parents may never be entirely happy with the choices their child has made, at least they won't feel like they are being stripped of their family roots.Couples from different cultural backgrounds usually aren't uptight about learning new customs and traditions. New partners may readily accept the challenge of engaging in the practices of different cultural groups.
Exposure to new customs doesn't mean one leaves their roots behind. Our cultures make us who we are, and that can never be taken away. And blending your culture and your interracial love's culture is what will make you who you are in your interracial union.
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I have been happily married to a white man for a year now. I must say that most of the black men or boys (I'm 22) I've had the misfortune of dating were obsessed with appearance, size, etc. and could not commit if their life depended on it. At 20, I knew what I wanted. I enjoyed being single for a while, but I wanted more. Now I'm not going to say that he was perfect, and he swept me off my feet. He was there for me and that's all that mattered. We both met while we were homeless, both results of our mental illnesses. When I was homeless, he helped find safe places for me to go during the day while he worked, and found places we could sleep during the night. The part I thank him for the most is I never had to do anything against my moral standards (prostitution, drugs,etc)His parents did not care for me much, not because of my color, but because I was not married to him (They are mormon and strong believers of marriage.) Being homeless in Utah, when we went to the store to get food every night to carry with us back to our site, people looked at him and I like I had three heads growing out of my neck. But I didn't care. I was in love. We ended up getting an apartment in Minnesota after a month of moving out there and getting married seven months later. I felt like I was at home. There are so many interracial couples out there no one took a second glance at us. We have had our rocky times, but I honestly think he is the best thing that ever happened to me. I share parts of my culture and they way I grew up daily with him, and he loves knowledge and is never afraid to ask questions. I cook him food with the wisdom and insight I gained from twenty years of sitting in a kitchen with my mama. His friends joke about me making fried chicken and all that but they respect me and the ones that don't he has left alone without asking me if I felt offended. He can read my face like a book. I feel grateful that I am in an interracial relationship that I never had to suppress who I am and who I am becoming.
When you have a man like him, does it really matter what everyone thinks about the color of his skin?
That is an awesome story. I am currently in an interracial relationship myself. We are very happy together and I am satisfied with him as a purpose despite his race. His family including his grandparents and most of his friends have accepted me for who i am and rarely make references to the color of my skin. Growing up I never had much luck finding black men to be with. I was always seen as the weird one because my choice of clothing and the music i listened to was not typically "black". I went to a beat of my own drum and it was not because i wanted to be white but because it was just what i was into. My boyfriend appreciates me for my uniqueness many black men have just found me strange and unattractive. I am thankful to GOd to find acceptance even if it was outside of my race. I feel like more people should consider their options. People off different races are NOT different species. WE are all one race. The human race! However i do recognize that African American people as well as other minorities have suffered great injustices at the hands of white racism. I have not forgotten this nor will i soften this fact. I recognize that racism does exist however it exists on both sides of the spectrum and probably will never end. All we can do is not ignore racial injustices but we should move forward to promote racial unity!
-PEace to you my friend
RED
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