A White Woman Explains Why She Prefers Black Men

i think that's bullshit! it's for SHOW & as you described on PURPOSE!!!

I've always felt that the attraction between most white women and black men was purely sexual and you just confirmed that for me. The reason I think this (though this isn't the entire reason) is because culturally stemming from when we were back in Africa black women were raised not to show their sexuality and to save themselves for marriage. I don't know white European history that well but as far as whites in America white women were "precious" and privileged because you were always catered to and not allowed to do any hard labor as dictated by white men. Outside of white women being the trophy wives for white men and being considered the next best thing to a white man I don't believe you all were held to any high standards regarding your behavior. Anything you all did was ok and just accepted because you all could do no wrong. Gone With the Wind comes to mind cause the main character there if you really look into the story was a ho. Now with that being said fast forward to today, it's the same thing. There was that movie made about the calendar girls I don't remember the exact name where they basically posed nude and no one said anything bad about it (this was not a porn movie by the way. It was released in theaters nationally). Had that been an all black movie we would have been torn apart by the critics and the movie would probably not have done as well. Black men today I believe are tired of having to go through a lot just to get a black woman in bed because that's how we've been raised not to be easy, so the next best thing is to go for a white girl cause to me you all come across as an open book. I was once at a restaurant with a friend of mine and the white hostess kept walking by our table openly flirting with my friend without knowing whether he and I were married dating or just friends. A black woman unless she's a freak or not in her right mind would never have done such a thing unless she knew me and just wanted to play with my head. I was shocked that this white girl, in public was making herself look so slutty. I'm always shocked at how quick white woman are to jump on a black guy and I hear plenty of tales from my girlfriends of real life white women they know and the slutty behaviors they display when dealing with black men. I'm not downing ALL white women but as a whole you all aren't the most conservative women on this earth. And I haven't said all this to say that black woman don't ever act easy or that we're ALL waiting for marriage to give it up, but overwhelmingly white women are far easier to sleep with than black women and this article just helps to prove that. And as another person had commented I also appreciate your honesty on this subject which is rarely examined but just more so accepted as fact and ignored. I also appreciate you expressing why you love black men without putting black women down but surprisingly this article very much supported a lot of what I already thought about white women that mess with black men. More white women and black women need to have discussions like this.

i feel like i just read "a slave master's wife's guide to seducing a black male slave."  now i must disclose that i'm dating a white boi and he's HOT!...a lil on the skinny side but a hottie.  he just bought me a gift for thanksgiving...THANKSGIVING...who does that?  one of the last black guys i went out with didn't even buy my two cheeseburger meal (with no onions) from mcdonalds). 

anyhoo...where black women seem to struggle with the historical, emotional and social impacts of dating outside their race, black men seem to view it in opposite terms.  it's as if going outside of oneself in the black male mind is a point of elevation whereas black women question if it's a complete and utter degredation of one's soul. 

either way, some old chick writing an article about why she enjoys being pimped is of no consequence to me so it's whatever...

So while I read this, I struggled with so many emotions. First, I was intrigued. I have long wondered about the appeal of White women to Black men, but I am even more perplexed by what is so appealing to White women about Black men.

I clicked on "Read More" and continued to read. I started to feel disgusted. Disgust was replaced by hot anger. Hot anger was replaced by frustration.<

I have to say that your blog is entertaining to say the least but it also made me more suspicious of White women, dislike White women more, and more discouraged about getting a Black man (I'm already competing with a plethora of single, financially and professionally successful, still SINGLE Black women).

I was also strangely offended by the way you described Black man. On one hand, it was great to hear someone praising our Black men, complimenting the beauty afforded by their African ancestry. On the other, it was coming from a White woman, an outsider, and a predator maybe? Additionally, I am sure I wouldn't have felt this way had this description come from a Black woman. I would read it, agreed, and gone about my business.

But this, this upset me and I am made even more upset because I'm not sure I should be, but I can't help myself. It is as if you are "taking our men". You describe them in this romanticized manner that I have always imagined White women think of the "Mandingo mystique." I was also perturbed because you described Black men as if they were a homogenous group of people with very monolithic behavior and attributes.

Most importantly, it is so enraging that the very things you find sexy in Black men but missing in White men are things that slavery cultivated in our race. Slave masters castrated Black men in front of an audience in order to 1) subdue that Black man and make him a proper, obedient slave, 2) humiliate him in front of his people so that he would have no chance of stirring a rebellion, 3) warn other slaves of the repercussions of disobeying a master and 4) to preserve the virtue of White women by removing Black men’s sexual urges.

Theories in Black psychology propose that the uber-masculine behavior of modern Black men (that often results in gang membership, domestic violence, street violence, etc.) is a compensatory behavior following heavy deprecation and humiliation of slavery. Black mothers and fathers imparted archetypes of how to behave as masculine as possible so as to retain some of the dignity stolen by the system of slavery that existed in North America. It's a defense mechanism.

It is difficult for a Black man to be treated as a respectable man in this culture, sometimes no matter what they achieve professionally or financially. Black men are still seen, as buffoons, less intellectually capable, must adhere to a White standard, portrayed in the media as violent, absent fathers. And as a Black person (male or female) your behavior and achievements are always representative of your race or a shining example against the failure of your race. Rarely are you evaluated individually and just representing yourself.

I'm digressing because I'm so frustrated. It's possible that you know all these things. However, as a 20-something year old, college educated, graduate school bound Black woman, I'm ineligible to many a Black man. I have educated myself out of many pools of Black men.

On top of that, I have to compete with the White aesthetic. I have to perm my hair, pluck this, reduce this, and augment this to meet the White/European standard of beauty that is sometimes very antithetical to my African features. I don't perm my hair to make it bone straight like some White women's and I have again removed myself from another pool of Black men that prefer White aesthetics.

Furthermore, I resented the fact that you understand that White women, for Black men for centuries, are a kind of forbidden fruit. White men don’t want White women to be tampered with and Black women damn sure don’t want Black men chasing after White women. That’s another social construct brought to you by the letters s-l-a-v-e-r-y. However, in this day and age when it is no longer acceptable to legislate social segregation, White women have, in a way, become a status symbol for Black men once they have “made it.” You attract the men that know they couldn’t have you twenty years ago? I’m so confused. So are you preying on the broken psyche of our Black culture, our Black men?

I want a Black man to have Black children and do my social and professional part to strengthen our culture and our people. It would be one thing if you happened to fall in love with a Black man and lived happily ever after. But you don't. You are "race-specific" in your dating endeavors, making our most eligible Black men ineligible to us.

I know Black men are fly. I know they are irresistible. Black culture is heavily influenced by Africn culture. I know our men have swag. I know White men don't flirt quite like our men do. Which is why I'm torn about your words. It is true. There is something different, maybe even magical about Blackness/Africanness. But damn, White lady, you have the world at your feet. Can we at least have our Black men? There has to be a swaggerific White men somewhere!

I don't know you but something tells me you can never really appreciate a Black man in the capacity he is meant to be. I doubt you can smile with the glee we do when we see a Black man pushing a stroller, playing with his young children or making his African wife laugh. It's devastating what is happening to Black America and to Africa and retaining our Black men, to be great Black fathers, to be great Black community leaders, is a large part of the solution. And, ostensibly, you just want to sex them up?

This was a great read though.